Sakura | Smart Dating Journal

Conversation Starters

"What was the highlight of your week?"
"What made you laugh recently?"
"Tell me about something you're excited about."

Positive Indicators to Watch For

Active listening (maintains eye contact, asks follow-up questions)

Shared sense of humor or laughing together

Conversation flows naturally without awkward silences

Mutual engagement in topics (both contributing)

Areas of Concern to Be Aware Of

Frequently checking phone or seeming distracted

One-sided conversation (you doing all the talking/asking)

Interrupting frequently or dismissing your points

Uncomfortable or awkward body language

Pro Tip: Put your phone away completely during the date. Being fully present will help you better observe connection signals and make a more authentic impression.

Value-Revealing Questions

"What are you most proud of accomplishing so far?"
"How do you like to spend your free time?"
"What's something you're looking forward to in the next few years?"

Positive Indicators to Watch For

Similar perspectives on important topics (family, career, lifestyle)

Shared attitudes about money, time, or resources

Respectful discussion when opinions differ

Compatible life goals or visions for the future

Areas of Concern to Be Aware Of

Disagreement on fundamental values (respect, honesty, etc.)

Incompatible lifestyle choices or future plans

Dismissiveness about things important to you

Major differences in priorities (career vs. family, etc.)

Pro Tip: Listen not just to what they say but how they talk about their values. Are they passionate? Dismissive? Do they ask about yours in return?

Attachment-Revealing Questions

"How would you describe your past relationships?"
"What does good communication look like to you?"
"How important is personal space in a relationship for you?"

Positive Indicators to Watch For

Speaks respectfully about past relationships

Comfortable with appropriate vulnerability

Respects your boundaries and communicates their own

Consistent behavior throughout the date

Areas of Concern to Be Aware Of

Excessive negativity about all past partners

Love bombing or excessive intensity too early

Hot and cold behavior or inconsistent interest

Disrespect of your stated boundaries

Pro Tip: Pay attention to how they respond when you express a boundary or preference. Healthy attachment is shown through respect for boundaries, not through testing them.

Growth-Revealing Questions

"What's something you've been wanting to learn or improve at?"
"How have you changed in the last few years?"
"What would you say is your biggest personal challenge right now?"

Positive Indicators to Watch For

Shows curiosity and asks thoughtful questions

Talks about personal growth or development

Shows interest in your goals and aspirations

Open to new experiences or perspectives

Areas of Concern to Be Aware Of

Seems fixed in viewpoints or judgmental

Dismisses your interests or aspirations

Shows no interest in self-improvement

Avoids discussing challenges or mistakes

Pro Tip: Share one of your own growth goals or learning experiences to create space for them to reciprocate. How they respond will tell you a lot about their growth mindset.

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What stood out?

Connection Analysis

Positive Indicators

Areas of Concern

Values Analysis

Positive Indicators

Areas of Concern

Growth Analysis

Positive Indicators

Areas of Concern

Attachment Analysis

Positive Indicators

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Pre-Dating Guide

Conversation Starters

Positive Indicators to Watch For

Areas of Concern to Be Aware Of

Value-Revealing Questions

Positive Indicators to Watch For

Areas of Concern to Be Aware Of

Attachment-Revealing Questions

Positive Indicators to Watch For

Areas of Concern to Be Aware Of

Growth-Revealing Questions

Positive Indicators to Watch For

Areas of Concern to Be Aware Of

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Smart Dating Journal

Welcome to Sakura!

New Date Entry

What stood out?

Connection Analysis

Positive Indicators

Areas of Concern

Values Analysis

Positive Indicators

Areas of Concern

Growth Analysis

Positive Indicators

Areas of Concern

Attachment Analysis

Positive Indicators

Areas of Concern

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Real-time Analysis

Previous Dates

No entries yet

Dating Goals

Dating Insights

No analytics yet

Pre-Dating Guide

Conversation Starters

Positive Indicators to Watch For

Areas of Concern to Be Aware Of

Value-Revealing Questions

Positive Indicators to Watch For

Areas of Concern to Be Aware Of

Attachment-Revealing Questions

Positive Indicators to Watch For

Areas of Concern to Be Aware Of

Growth-Revealing Questions

Positive Indicators to Watch For

Areas of Concern to Be Aware Of

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